Mensez, Periods, and Shame

Why is it that men think that they can create products for women without a basic understanding of female anatomy?  Why do they think that they can comment on things that they have no clue about?



Take for instance this guy who felt that women should not get free feminine hygiene products because they should “learn to control their bladders.”

Then we have this guy who has created a new product called Mensez.  What does Mensez do, you ask?  Well, let’s see what the website says:

Mensez is a new patented IDEA!!! For feminine health. Mensez is a proprietary cleaning formula that is designed to clean and freshen without removing natural glandular secretions that are natural mucoadhesives. Those mucoadhesives cause the labia to hold together and retain menstrual fluids and vaginal secretions inside in the same location that a tampon would retain them. The mucoadhesive seal releases when you urinate or bath. Mensez will keep you cleaner and fresher on the outside so nothing feels damp sticky on your skin, hair or clothing, so there is no sensation of stretching or pulling with normal active lifestyle.

So after bathing or urinating wipe with Mensez Feminine Wipes and you are done, safe and secure, never be surprised at the worst possible time, and it’s better for the environment….

So, let me get this straight.  You have created a product that will allow our labia to stick together to act as a kind of cup for menstrual blood?  I know that this is crazy and would not work for everyone; but, when this was brought up to the male creator, he had this to say:

…in a response to one visitor’s comment on the Mensez Facebook page, in which he explained that “[Y]ou as a woman should have come up with a better solution than diapers and plugs, but you didn’t. Reason being women are focused on and distracted by your period 25% of the time, making them far less productive than they could be. Women tend to be far more creative than men, but their periods that [sic] stifle them and play with their heads.” 

Yes, he actually said that and you can find the full article from Forbes right here.

Can anyone here say “misogyny?”

Do men think that women like dealing with bleeding at least 12 weeks a year?  That we enjoy having to remember to bring along “plugs and diapers” so that we don’t bleed all over our clothes?  That we enjoy cramps and bloating and sensitive boobs and hormones getting all whacked out EVERY. SINGLE. MONTH?

Do you think that we enjoy working when we don’t feel well?  Or that we enjoy being shamed, like this woman was, for being at work on her period?

Last, but not least, do you think we women give a damn if you men think that our periods are gross or that we should be cast to a yurt and treated as unclean during our periods?

Let me answer that question for you, because I don’t really give a damn about your answer.  Our answer is “no.”  A resounding “no,” full of the voices of the women that came before us that were taught that we were unclean and should be ashamed of having our periods.  A resounding “no” for every young girl who has started her period at school, unprepared, and been made to feel embarrassed about it. A resounding “no” for every woman who has been accused of being on her period and “moody” when she dared to stand up for what she believed in.

Our periods are what enable us to create life in our bodies, if we should choose to do so.  Without that, we don’t have children, which it seems that many men put a lot of stock in so that their genes can be carried on to the next generation.  Guess what, guys who are squeamish?  You can’t do that without a woman that has a period and all of the anatomy that goes with that.

Women have a period.  Period.

It’s time to stop letting men define how we have our periods or how we deal with them. It’s time to stop allowing ourselves to be shamed for a period when this is just how evolution has made us. It’s time for us to stop feeling like we need to apologize for something that we can’t control.  It’s time for women to stand up to people who want to shame us for these things, man or woman, and tell them to STFU.

There is no shame in being a woman and we should not allow anyone to shame us for standing up for ourselves and what we need and want.

Do you, boo, however that looks and whatever it means for you.  Be your true and honest self. Do whatever you want.